Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Best Things About Being Married to a Transsexual

You see, being married to a Trans is a little different than being married to other folks because before transition they are two different people - one that's their external self and one that is being suppressed. The one that is being held down is the one they really need to be. When they are holding down their "real" personality, it leads to many bad things such as depression, anger, isolation and controlling behavior. Once they've made the transition their real self becomes fully integrated with all their memories intact, although viewed through a whole new filter. They don't have to hide their true selves anymore. That frees them of all those bad behaviors - and their family and friends get to see all sorts of "Firsts" and "Bests."

One of The Best Things about Being Married to a Transsexual was watching and seeing the Best of Angela this week. I sat back this year and really watched how she was enjoying the holiday. She was so much fun right from the start. I already mentioned her happily getting down decorations and helping to put them up, but it was so much more than that. It was shopping for gifts and wrapping them together and standing in line chatting at the post office as we mailed off cards and packages. It was being aware of how excited she was about having the family here, and listening to her guess what the baby would do with her new toys. It was seeing her laugh over goofy presents and making funny faces with the baby. It was hearing her gay conversation as we fixed dinner with four people maneuvering around the kitchen. It was having a snowball fight with christmas wrap as we cleaned up after everyone left.

So, my "Best Things" was seeing how delightfully wonderful all the changes have come together since her transition.

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